sams_pf
09-11-2008, 03:06 AM
I want to ask youns to pray for my boyfriend, Johnny. He's the most caring and compassionate man I've ever met, to a fault almost. He has always put everyone first. He lives in the apartment of his grandmother's house, so he can take care of her. When he moved out once she made him feel so guilty that he moved back in.She's in congestive heart failure now. She was in a nursing home a few months ago, but got well enough to come home with home health's assistance. The whole situation has really taken a toll on him. She doesn't allow him any company and expects him to be with her every minute he's not at work. His own daughter doesn't visit because of her and she doesn't want him to have any life other than her, she's tried to get him to stop seeing me. She's very demanding and almost possessive of him. I've tried to be understanding and patient. I don't blame him for taking care of her. But he will not disrespect anyone.But there has been a setter with her while he works, and occasionally while we go out. Well he has been told that she was going to let the setter go altogether. Putting so much more stress on him. His aunt (her daughter)told him it's all on him, that if he leaves she'll go back to the nursing home. That really tore him up. I hate everything he has to go through there, but the worst thing is his faith is really weak at the moment. He does nothing but encourage and try to be so positive to everyone else, but like he said, he sees everything gray, no color or happiness in anything. He has mentioned moving to Ohio where his mom is, but she told him he belonged here with me. I'd let him come here in a heartbeat, but he's such a nervous person I'm afraid the coming and going of the boys would be hard on him. But he is such an emotional basket case right now. I've tried to encourage him, tell him to just have faith, and so much, but it's like nothing is getting through. It's like he has no hope left in him. He says the only time he feels at peace is when he's with me, but I know I can't give him the peace of mind he needs, only God can. Even when I tell him what all God has got me through, it's like he doesn't hear or it'll never happen with him. Although besides my boys, he's one of the biggest blessings I've recieved.He blames himself for his dad's death because he was the one in charge of telling them to take him of life support after a wreck. He feel he's the blame for everything, even if his grand mother would happen to pass away after he moved out. I really am concerned because he is so depressed even with medication. But I know what prayer can do for even that. I'm really at a loss of what to tell him. If anyone can think of scripture I can point out to him. But prayers are wonderful. Sorry so long winded, but thank you.